It’s Too Hard to Even Make It There

It’s Too Hard to Even Make It There

Alright, Let’s see what I’ve got on my list here. Visit the gym. Are you kidding me?”

 


Sometimes the simplest things can feel like the heaviest weights. The simpler they are, the more we paradoxically “can’t be bothered.”

Head to the garage, show up to the dishes, open the report – without even needing to do anything. All come with a wave of revulsion.

In such states, how can we ever move forward?

While I often and continue to espouse a Visit as a powerful unit of work, it may yet be too difficult to even make it there. Despite not needing to do a thing, to only show up for a single deep breath and feel free to let it go beyond, the bind of appearing at all is still too much.

What then?

We might discover a path forward from those times we’ve been in play.

When we enjoy something, naturally, we might bump into frustrations, take stock of where we are, slow down, break it down, simplify, and find some ease once again, and finally return with that ease back into challenge.

Dynamically, we tune to windows of challenge for where we are in that moment. We find those places that are not so easy to be boring, but not so intense as to be overwhelming.

We can adapt that same process to difficult work, only by bringing the process to consciousness.

Whether slowing down, breaking something down into the tiniest of tiny next steps, or finding a fundamental basic within the complex moment, there may be something we can work into an ease, a being-able-to-do-with-barely-a-thought, even if that is to hardly lift a leg off the couch.

If able to have found that path to tiny ease, we can then ask,

“Can I gently bring that ease with me forward into some next step?”

Sometimes, we may even be able to continue onward to make a Visit, stepping up to the work to stare at the vista, now with our full emotional being. We can then fully decide whether or not to engage that Wave of Focus, as smooth or rough as it may end up being.

– Kourosh

PS. The next time you find yourself in play, consider if you can see these steps of approaching challenge, naturally unfolding in the background.

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