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But ‘I Just Don’t Wanna’

But ‘I Just Don’t Wanna’

Laundry? Taxes? Work report?

“I don’t wanna” feelings can run strong. They are often complex, irritating, and frustrating.

Whether someone tells us to do something or even when we tell ourselves, it doesn’t matter. That internal sense of agency can feel threatened, and a mix of emotions begin to rise.

And as they build, so does our desire to protect ourselves from them, often culminating in some version of:

“But, I just don’t wanna!”

Where does this thought come from? More than just the specific work itself, there may be an association to your history with work in general.

Because of the struggles to engage, you may have a habit of waiting until the deadline before starting work. Urgency, after all, can help us get started.

Unfortunately, urgency often comes with its own host of emotions including:
Anger: “I can’t believe I have to do this!”
Shame: “I can’t believe I’ve let it go on this long…”
Frustration: “Where’s the stuff I need to do this?!”
Hopelessness: “How can I possibly get this done in time?”
Helplessness: “How can I ask for help? I’ve already burned my lines of good will for the same problem.”

Still, somehow you once again muddle through maybe with the help of sleeplessness, caffeine, and a few self-recriminating harsh words to help drown out these otherwise crushing emotions.

You may even do the thing well.

Supposedly, this would mean that “you’ve learned your lessons”:

– “Next time, I should start earlier”
– “I am more capable than I think.”
– “It’s usually not as bad as I think it will be…”

But rarely do these lessons actually internalize.

Why not? What’s going on?

These negative emotions are increasingly associated with working at all. In other words, rather than learning in the direction you may like, one in which a calmer approach may begin to open, the pattern instead reinforces a harsher internal environment.

The harshness is what gets you through it after all, albeit with a few fresh scars each time.

But, that means that the next time you try to make it through, you bring those scars along, many of which may even reopen in the process.

It’s an awful cycle.

How do you break free? While it’s not a simple process, the start can be. Namely, you can begin with what I call “a Visit”.

A Visit is simply this:
– Be with your chosen work
– Set distractions aside
– Stay for at least as long as a single conscious deep breath.

That’s it. You don’t even have to do any of the work. Preferably, you do this as early as possible, perhaps even the day something is assigned.

Of course, if you happen to nudge the work forward once or twice, that might be nice. If you get on a roll, hey that’s great. If nothing happens, do it again the next day.

You might even finish well before a deadline.

– Kourosh

PS There’s certainly a lot more that can be done with a visit, including building an entire system around them. If you’re interested in learning more about finding ways to engage a more relaxed pace of working, how to do so responsibly, and even get to the things you enjoy more reliably, consider the Waves of Focus.

What is Productivity?

Productivity is many things. For some, it is about doing a lot in a little time.
But, truly, productivity is so much more. It is about:

  • Setting yourself up for success.
  • Being focused where you want to be.
  • Doing things that you find meaningful.
  • Being creative, sometimes even in harsh environments.
  • Forging your own paths.
  • Finding your voice and delivering it well.
  • Knowing and actively deciding on your obligations.
  • Knowing where and how to say “no”.
  • Avoiding procrastination.

Too often, many of us fall into just going along with and fighting whatever the world throws at us. “Go with the flow!”, we say. Meanwhile, we might think, “I’d like to do that one thing. Maybe one day I will.” The days go by. The goal never arrives, and then we wonder why or blame circumstance.

But when we learn to take charge of our lives and the world
around us, we start living life with intention.

“I should do that,” becomes “This is how I start”. Deliberately forging a path to our goals and dreams, we figure out what we want in life and then start taking steps there.

Of course, striking out may seem scary. It takes courage to live life with purpose and on purpose. Roadblocks and worries, fears and concerns show up everywhere.

This is my passion. I want to help you to find that sense of your own unique play to meet the world so that you can:

  • Create a life that is yours.
  • Find and follow an inner guide in a way that works for you and those you care for.
  • Decide on your obligations and meet them while building the world you want.

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