The trouble with these approaches, is not that they don’t work.
It’s that sometimes they do.
The seeds of system’s destruction are sown in the beginning of these approaches where we trick ourselves.
Why Tricks and Hacks Fall Short
Relying on hacks can subtly reinforce the message – our own intentions aren’t trustworthy on their own. Over time, this erodes our relationship with ourselves, making it harder to show up with confidence and care.
When we try to “fake it till we make it,” we’re not building true confidence—we’re telling ourselves we’re not enough unless we’re being someone else. Confidence can’t be forced, only fostered.
The Quiet Power of Practice and Gentle Risk
So, how do we learn to trust ourselves to make a decision and then engage? How can we approach something, something we may not want to do, for example, in a way that feels genuine?
We might have hope that we can develop that trust. We might hope for that ability and that confidence. Now, the answer, a pithy answer, but still the ultimate answer is practice.
When we experience something, particularly regularly, we create direct experiences, experiences we can feel, where genuine confidence is nurtured.
A simple daily visit, where you do not have to act, where you can simply be, begins a path of practice, not only with the material, but with a sense that you can follow through.
- Kourosh
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