The Visit and Reaching the Edge of Action
Forcing ourselves to get started, through deadlines, shame, or asking others to push us can leave us feeling exhausted. But when we use a Visit-Based approach, rather than one based in force, we support ourselves. Many of my students have described a sense of relief...
Force-Based Systems and the Fickle Fuel of Fear
Stuck Those of us who feel like we cannot work unless we are interested in something or are fueled by some impending deadline, can simply feel stuck. We can neither fake interest, nor can we fake deadlines. So, what do we do? Unfortunately, feelings of helplessness...
The Pain of Potential
I could do this! I can do that! But, I need to this! But, but… I really want to do that! One of the powers and frustrations of a wandering mind is the number of things that we can do at any one time. What’s even more frustrating is fully knowing that if we...
The Vital Need for Play in Work
When feeling dependent on deadlines, feeling that we can only things we are interested in, Forcing ourselves to work by some means can seem to be the only choice. However, it might be only have been a default choice. It may have never occurred to you that alternative...
How Do You Know if You Are Using a “Force-Based” System of Working?
Many of can fall into Force-based systems of work without even realizing it. Consider a few signs that might help you know…
